Showing posts with label faith. Show all posts
Showing posts with label faith. Show all posts

Friday, May 7, 2010

For The Unspoken Mother’s Day…

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How easy it is to overlook the details of a beautiful flowering tree.  I passed my own ornamental pear dozens of times, before stopping to take this photograph. We may admire the entire tree budding and blooming, but there’s so much more if you look closely. Within each branch are hundreds of blooms each so intricately designed and adorned with stunning beauty,

This Mother’s Day I didn’t want to overlook those who may blend in to the tree, so to speak. There are so many who are struggling with the unknowns of infertility, the loss of miscarriage, the pain of losing a child or your own mother.  The unspokens…

I hope that you find courage, strength, hope, and faith to face your journey today and in the days ahead. 

Psalm 62:1-2
Truly my soul silently waits for God; From Him comes my salvation. He only is my rock and my salvation; He is my defense; I shall not be greatly moved.

Please use the comment section if you feel led to share your own story, journey, or struggle. Help us to honor you…

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Thursday, May 6, 2010

Hope Blogs #WVinDR

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Some of my dearest blogging friends are in the Dominican Republic right now with World Vision.  After watching a handful of Compassion Blogger trips and gleaning so much from their experiences, I’m excited to see World Vision taking the opportunity to reach the world through blogger’s hearts. The things that they are sharing from there are so captivating and so moving that I had to share a few with you…

This story of a mother named Maria’s love for Jesus and her hope for her four boys living in the slums of Santo Domingo touched my heart.
These questions are fresh on my mind this afternoon…
This glance into how World Vision is impacting a community helped me understand more.
These faces made me smile back at them….
These words caused me to pray….
This uniting of Jill with her sponsored child who she’s been supporting for 10 years brought tears to my eyes.

My brother’s recent trip to Haiti, the earthquake, and these blogger’s personal experiences, are giving me a greater love for this people group and for reaching the world for Christ.  How about you?
(I’ve closed the comments on this post so you can visit the links above and to consider how God might be leading you to respond.) 
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This post is linked to Saturday Stumbles at It’s Come To This

Monday, May 3, 2010

The Journey of Motherhood

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As Mother’s Day quickly approaches, my thoughts have been filled with my journey to motherhood.  There were years that I didn’t know if I would have the privilege of being called “Mama” and so many days that I questioned why God would give me such a deep desire to be something that I could not humanly achieve.

My personal journey to motherhood has been full of unexpected turns and unfamiliar territory. Even now, it’s so much different than I could have imagined. So many times I find myself falling to my own expectations of who I thought I would be as a mother. There are times I must of lower the bar I’ve set for myself yet again to survive another stage. There are times that I am giving it my all and know it’s still not enough

And then there are times that I find delight in the small moments of motherhood, like taking them to throw rocks into a nearby creek. Frequent moments that I look at my boys from afar and soak in once again that they are truly a gift from God. Suddenly I’m hit with the reality that this is my journey.  These tender, adventurous, rowdy, simple, sweet, messy, busy, affectionate, crazy-filled days are my own fleeting days of motherhood.

Whatever may lie ahead in my path, I am grateful for this role and humbled by this responsibility. My purpose is defined as I journey ahead down the unexpected, challenging, and joy-filled path of motherhood.

Psalm 25:4,5 “Show me your ways, O LORD, teach me your paths;  guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.”

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Monday, March 29, 2010

Easter: Meaning vs. Marshmallow

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It’s Easter week, the utmost important holiday to our Christian faith.  As much as I love the Starburst Jellybeans, I think we are guilty of commercializing Easter in a way that takes away from the message of the cross and the empty tomb.  I would love for our boys to see the Meaning vs. the Marshmallow at an early age.

Here are a few links I’ve found that I would love to incorporate into our family Easter traditions.

~ No Time for Flash Cards has a fun “Marshmallow Easter Egg” that looks simple enough for this not so crafty mama.

~ (in)courage has Five Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Easter that reflect on the true meaning of Easter. 

~ We Are That Family has a great “Making Easter Story Eggs” idea that I would love to recreate.

~ Need a Perfect Easter Gift?  I can’t recommend the Jesus Storybook Bible Deluxe Edition enough! 

~ I’ve heard of the Resurrection Rolls, but I’ve never seen the cookie version until Sugar & Spice and Frugal Advice posted her Easter Story Cookies recipe.

Somewhere there’s a balance between the meaningless fun and faith based ways to celebrate. We’re still working on what that looks like for our family.

We’d love to hear what Easter looks like in YOUR family! How do you celebrate?  How do you keep it meaningful? (Feel free to share your links in the comment section if you’ve blogged a tradition, recipe, or activity.)

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Always Fresh. Never Stale.

Yesterday was one of those days”.Tullip

A day in which nearly every waking moment was filled with a tantrum, an argument, a complaint, a total meltdown, an act of disobedience or the ultimate combo platter. 

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It was mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, exhausting. My eyes welled up with tears on more than one occasion through the long day. It was one of those days that you loose hope…that you feel absolutely stuck.                                                   Photo Credit

My selfishness took over and tempted me to throw in the towel. (Like I even have a choice.)

Not even a hot bath could shake it.

I needed a fresh beginning that only God could provide.

Lamentations 3:22-23 “The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

His love and mercy are always fresh!

So I woke up this morning clinging to His promises that “His mercies are new every morning” and choosing to be joyful, thankful, and obedient to His calling in my life regardless of my circumstances or the possible insignificant difficulties that I may face in the hours ahead.

I Peter 1:3-7 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, who by God’s power are being guarded through faith for a salvation read to be revealed in the last time. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuiness of your faith – more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire – may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

(Thank you so much for this reminder, Mari!)

There’s much comfort, hope, joy, mercy, and encouragement in the Gospel. How often I forget its promises and its truth! It’s fresh and applicable EVERY SINGLE DAY.

May it be your strength today no matter what you difficulty you may be facing, sweet friends!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

53 Years – Through It All

UPDATE: My dad had surgery last night to partially remove the kidney stone.  Unfortunately they were unable to blast/remove all of it and he will repeat the procedure next week.  He has been the BEST patient, and his outlook has been remarkable!  They are hopefully releasing him this afternoon. Thank you for your continued prayers and concern.  Your prayers have provided much peace and assurance for our family.  God is faithful!

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parents Today my parents are celebrating their 53rd Anniversary in the romantic atmosphere of the hospital.  Nothing like an IV drip of pain meds to help you celebrate the love of your life, right? 

Last night I got a call from my sister. “Jen,…”, she said. Instantly I knew that the words “hospital” and “ambulance” were about to come out of her mouth. My dad was experiencing severe pain and vomiting and they were on their way to the hospital. 

Thank you to all of you who reached out through Twitter, Facebook, and texting last night as I asked for prayers.  I felt surrounded by your genuine concern and comforted by your prayers.

It was a huge relief to find out he is suffering with a kidney stone.  Although he’s in for a few very unpleasant days ahead, we are so incredibly grateful that it is not life-threatening.

My parents have been and continue to be a godly example in my life.  Their marriage and their lives are examples to many.  They demonstrate so many character qualities that I would love to possess more of, they are so supportive of one another and of others, and they are two of the most unselfish individuals you’ll ever meet!  They’ve been “Through It All” and are continuing to depend upon His Word.

“Through it all,
Through it all,
I've learned to trust in Jesus,
I've learned to trust in God.
Through it all,
Through it all,
I've learned to depend upon His Word.”
 

Thank you for continuing to pray for his recovery and strength. 

Happy 53rd Anniversary, Mom and Dad! 

Thursday, February 18, 2010

I Didn’t Know I Was Stuck In a Rut Until I Started to Climb Out

(I know you might be expecting Disney pictures and stories…and trust me I have LOTS of them to share, but for now would you allow me to share a little of what’s on my heart with you? It seems important to get this out first before I post about Blissdom or The Disney Social Media Moms Celebration or any of our daily life adventures. I think it will help me as I start climbing out of this rut that I’ve fallen into.)

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut and you had no clue you were in one? 

Or where it started? 

Or what caused it?

Somewhere in the daily tasks and responsibilities I’ve lost sight of what life is really about…

Somewhere amidst the chores, the financial uncertainties of unemployment, the expectations, commitments, physical challenges, the disappointments of not feeling like I was doing anything well, the pressures, the failures,and other distractions, I allowed negativity to drag me into its ugly pit. 

The sins of selfishness, impatience, and pride have been far too evident in my interactions and attitude. 

And somehow I didn’t see it coming.  Somehow I didn’t notice how far I had fallen.

(Enter: Disney World. The happiest place on earth, after all!)

Surrounded by my dear sweet men for a week, away from the daily routines of life, I watched them with smiles and wonder plastered on their faces.  I worked together with my #1 teammate in life under stressful and tiring circumstances, and watched us grow as a couple.  I celebrated our family experiencing a “normal” family vacation. I was encouraged by other bloggers and positive social media influencers. I took in the pure happiness of childhood. I breathed it in….And Boy, did it feel good!

So now as I make my “re-entry” into reality it’s become apparent that I was in a serious RUT.  And now I’m bound and determined to climb my way out. 

There are changes I need to make.  Things I need to do better.  Ways that I need to grow.  Priorities that need shifted. Apologies to be made. Realizations to digest.

When did I get so serious?  When did I allow things to overwhelm me to the point of despair? When did I let tasks and responsibilities steal my enjoyment in life? How did I become so self-focused?

It’s frustrating and upsetting….but on the other hand it’s motivating.

I’m pretty sure there’s a lot of JOY ahead in this journey… along with fist pumping, uncontrollable giggling, tender moments, quiet understandings, love taps, silliness, letting go, and investing in others.

There’s more of my heart that needs filling.

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 Proverbs 15:13,15b “A joyful heart makes a cheerful face, But when the heart is sad, the spirit is broken…A cheerful heart has a continual feast.” 

Friday, January 1, 2010

Christmas Collaged

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As I’m typing this the tree is being boxed up and shoved into a corner of the garage for another 11 months (while the quads are sleeping, mind you). And I can’t help but feel the mixture of emotions that goes along with packing up Christmas.  Glad to declutter, put things back in their place, get back to a routine, yet sad to say goodbye to the visual reminders of my favorite Christmas of all.

My memory is a collage of little moments along the way…

Decorating the Tree with the Boys (and breaking a few decorations in the process)

Watching Their Little Eyes Light Up as They Really Took Christmas In for the 1st Time

Singing Away in the Manger with the Boys Before Bed

Driving Around Neighborhoods Looking at Lights (And Laughing at How Brooks and Clark Were Scared of The Flashing House with Music)

Celebrating with My Family at My Parents House

Receiving Christmas Cards from Family and Friends

Wrapping Gifts Late into the Night

Being Blessed by Other Peoples Kindness

Bundling Up and Making a Trip Downtown

Watching the Boys “Sing” in Their First Christmas Program

Making Some Yummy Holiday Food

Spending Christmas Eve with Brad’s Family

Soaking Up Time with Family That We Don’t See Nearly Enough

Singing Happy Birthday to Jesus

Watching Their Excited Fingers Open Presents

Watching My Boys Bring Others Joy

It Truly was a Magical, Magnificent, Memorable Christmas! 

(And I’m probably not through blogging about it!)

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Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Ain’t God Good

My pastor growing up used to sing a song that went like this…

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If you’d like to flashback to 1986 with some really bad hair, you can check out this YouTube video to hear it.  (Of course it’s Southern Gospel, when else is “Ain’t” musically acceptable?)

I’ve been singing it all night. 

Not only does He bless us EVERY DAY with His mercy, grace, and love; Today was a day that can only be explained through His goodness and His provision.

If you don’t mind I’d love to share the story with you…

I’m sitting on the couch during nap time checking comments on the blog when the doorbell rings.  I jump up to answer it and there is a lady standing there with a card in her hand.  My first thoughts were,

“Are you one of my neighbors delivering us a Christmas card?” 

“Do I know you?”

“Stink, I don’t have a Christmas card ready for you…whoever you are.”

Very quickly she handed me the card and said, “I have a delivery for you.” And just like that she was GONE. 

Puzzled, I opened the card and out fell 4 one-hundred dollar bills.  Incredible!

Absolutely INCREDIBLE!

The card was addressed to Brad, Jen, Brooks, Clark, Henry, and Isaac and simply signed from “Our Family” 

Minutes later Brad made a call to our mechanic to find out if our car was diagnosed yet.  A low fluid indicator light has been coming on, even after refilling it with anti-freeze.  Turns out the heater core is leaking coolant just behind the dashboard.  To fix it will cost around $450! 

Minutes after that a guy called about an item that we listed on Craigslist a few weeks back to see if it was still available.  We had all but given up on selling it, since we hadn’t had any real interest or inquiries.  Lo and behold, he came by the house and it was sold.  The price that the item sold for should take care of taxes and leave a cushion for the repairs. 

Isn’t that down right AMAZING?   We are shocked, overjoyed, relieved, and we’ve even laughed out loud over the preciseness of God’s timing and provision.

People have been generous to us in many ways, and we feel exceedingly blessed and amazed by God’s provision for our family during this season of unemployment through the holidays. We are truly 4tunate!

Ain’t God Good? 

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Full of Much, –Ful of Less

It has been a VERY full day. 

Full of Play: 

Dressing up like police officers, Bob the Builder, and firemen with our family friend CJ

Eating at Sonic for an afternoon treat

Visiting our local firehouse and having Mr. David the Fireman give us a tour of the trucks and gadgets

Full of Business:

Phone calls securing insurance for our family

Phone calls with possible job leads for Brad

Conversations about Future Prospects and Unknowns

Financial Discussions

Full of Questions, Full of Mystery, Full of Unaccomplished Plans, Full of Fun, Full of Confusion, Full of Celebration, Full of Sarcasm, Full of Unanswered Messages in my Inbox, Full of Thankfulness for Answered Prayers…

And I’m discovering that the MORE I think I’ve learned to trust God with my life, the MORE He is showing me that there’s so much MORE to trust Him with FULLY.

And He’s teaching me that I need to be more ThankFUL, FaithFUL, TrustFUL, and JoyFUL…

…and less FearFUL!

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Photo by doogiedom via Flickr

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Overheard in the Odyssey

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On our way to grab some dinner In the van the other night, we were talking to the boys about how God lives in heaven. We tried to explain a few things about heaven on their level. Here’s a snipit of the conversation that followed:

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     Clark: I don’t wanna go to heaven.

     Daddy: Oh yes you do, Buddy!

     Clark: Not today! I wanna eat food.

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     Brooks: Isaac, You love Jesus?

     Isaac: Yeah.

     Brooks: Brooks loves Jesus too!

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It brings so much joy to my heart to hear my children, even in their simplistic conversations talking about Jesus.  My prayer is that these conversations are only the beginning…

 My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandment with you; keep my commandments and live;keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart.” Proverbs 7:1-3 (ESV)

 

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Bloggers Unite: March of Dimes

Today over 400 Bloggers are participating in Bloggers Unite Fight for Preemies to raise awareness of the 20 million babies who are born prematurely each year.  The March of Dimes is fighting to drastically decrease these numbers.  You can learn how to help fight against premature birth here.

As a mother of four preemies, I owe an ENORMOUS thank you to the efforts of the March of Dimes.  Each of our 32 weekers benefited in some way, shape, or form from their dedication to fighting for preemies and diligent research.  Although our quadruplets had to put up a fight for survival (especially Clark), they came out of the NICU experience with flying colors.  

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Most would call us lucky.

We beat the “odds”.

We had a favorable outcome in the face of many obstacles. 

Obstacles that included respiratory distress, a NEC (Necrotizing Enterocolitis) scare, high billirubin levels, high blood pressure, bradyacardia, apnea, dangerously high CO2 levels, and digestive issues.

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However, we know better than chalking it up to “beating the odds”.  We know that “luck” discredits the true factors in our boys’ survival.

Most of all it ignores God’s ultimate plan. He chose to give us life.  Sometimes He chooses to take life (that He created) away.  Sometimes even to those in our exact same circumstances, or with even better “chances”.  I simply can’t understand it in this lifetime.

And to be completely honest, sometimes it’s not always easy to be the “survivor” family. 

~ It’s extremely difficult to watch a mother of twins next to you meet her babies, for the sole purpose of saying goodbye.

~ It’s emotionally disturbing to listen to two mothers scream in agony over losing their babies on both sides of the walls of your high-risk unit room, while you feel your four babies moving inside of you.

~ It’s gut retching to have four healthy babies safely at home and read about a mother who you’ve followed throughout her pregnancy loose 5/6 of her sextuplets.

~ It’s unbearable to watch a friend’s full-term baby be born with multiple complications, and unable to survive.

Of course it makes me thankful for the breathing, heart-beating lives of our boys, but there’s also a guilt that’s hard to explain.  I don’t deserve these blessings, yet God allowed them to live; And not only live but thrive

These are the emotions that surround me as a mother of 4 premature success stories, I cannot fathom the grief of the other side.

I cannot wrap my mind around it.

Instead, I can only choose to be grateful.  Grateful for their precious miracle lives that God has chosen for us to raise another day. And thankful for how He used the doctors, nurses, respiratory therapists of St. Vincent Women’s Hospital, and for the efforts made through the March of Dimes in their little lives.

And that is how we left these doors as SURVIVORS.

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If you are blogging for the cause of fighting for preemies.  Feel free to link up your specific post here:

 

 

Sunday, November 1, 2009

30 Days of Giving

 

Are you ready to be inspired? 

Are you ready to be challenged?

Are you ready to be creative?

Are you ready to give of yourself more?

Alyssa, from Keeping The Kingdom First, is creating a 30 Day Challenge that starts TODAY.  I know what’s on the tip of your tongue.  “Times are tight.  We just don’t have the extra cash to give right now.”  Dually noted!  (We’re currently unemployed, remember?) However, you just might be missing something amazing if you pass this up.  Besides, there’s sooooo much more we can give that doesn’t come in the form of a credit card or dollar bill. 

Time. Encouragement. Talent. Heart. Conversation. Service. 

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galations 6:9

What a great way to commence the Thanksgiving season this November and to prepare our hearts for the upcoming holidays! Giving has a way of showing us how blessed we truly are!There’s going to be plenty of ideas and avenues that you can jump on board with during The 30 Day Giving Challenge.  Grab a journal and let’s get GIVING!  RSVP at Keeping The Kingdom First if you are joining us and to get more details in this awesome effort! 

Blessings to All!

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Faith Baby Giveaway

faithbaby-header9You observant readers have probably noticed that we added a Faith Baby Button to our blog a month  ago.  I love building relationships with companies that are a great “FIT” for this blog.  I love that they view children as a BLESSING and a true gift from God!  Faith Baby has a unique variety of onesies, tees, diaper covers, and other faith inspired apparel for kids.  You might recognize  their products from being featured on blogs such as Mckmama’s, Kelly’s Korner, or 5 Minutes for Mom.

I have the awesome opportunity of receiving a t-shirt for one of our munchkins and also one to giveaway to a reader!  How fun, right?  The toddler tee I chose says, “be patient, God is not finished with me yet!”  How appropriate for this stage of toddlerhood!  It’s made of heavy-weight cotton, and I love the bright color!

(Faith Baby, if you are looking for another clothing model, sign this handsome fellow (Brooks) up!)

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Faith Baby offers lots of affordable choices and would make delightful gifts!  How cute are these Ruffled Diaper Covers?  Good thing I don’t have girls around here – I wouldn’t know where to stop! 

So here’s how you can win your very own onesie or tee: 

1. Go to Faith Baby (www.faithbaby.com) and take a look at their stylish and trendy selections.

2. Leave me a comment telling me which adorable tee or onesie YOU would pick if you were chosen for this giveaway. 

For additional entries: (Leave a comment for each additional entry, pretty please.)

* Become a follower of the Faith Baby Blog (www.faithbabyblog.com)

* Follow me on Twitter (@quatro_mama) and tweet this message, “I just entered to win a Faith Baby Onesie from @quatro_mama – http://tinyurl.com/yzdgnkt

Hurry!  This giveaway ends Monday, October 26th!  

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Hunting Season

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We continue to be so grateful for your encouragement during this “season” of our lives. Do you realize how much the relationships that we’ve made through this blog are making a significant impact in our lives?  Thank you for taking time out of your busy lives to write us a note of encouragement, share a contact name, offer your prayers, and share your experiences. 

We took a little break over the weekend (which I need to blog about soon), and then went into full hunting mode, working  every waking non-quad intensive hour on following up on leads, sending out resumes, talking to personal contacts…Those of you who have been in our shoes know the routine far too well, I’m sure. 

We truly appreciate your prayers more than anything.  This is new territory for us as a family, and at times I think the uncertainties have been more challenging than either of us anticipated.  I am certain that God will use this in our lives for His purpose!  We have much to learn and soak up from His Word.  Yesterday, as I was reading Chapter 4 in Crazy Love (Are you reading and loving it?), this verse became so fresh and relevant:

I Timothy 6:17-19 (ESV) 

17 As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. 18 They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, 19 thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life.

We have been richly provided for in many ways.  Most of us Americans have been blessed beyond measure. Currently we have been blessed with reliable transportation, roofs over our 6 heads, clothing, health insurance that will continue through almost the end of the year, a bank account with a cushion, full bellies, our health, a family who loves us, a supportive church family, faithful blog readers…the list is endless!

Would you join us in praying that our “aim” would be focused on things that matter for eternity, as we face the uncertainties of this present life? 

Thank you for continuing to be a blessing in our lives in and out of season!

Thursday, October 1, 2009

The Reason for the Giant Knot in My Stomach…

After surviving several rounds of cutbacks and layoffs over the past few months, Brad was let go from his job today. It’s disappointing, upsetting, nerve-racking, and extremely sad to say goodbye to a company that has cared for and accommodated our family, and to loose our only source of full-time income.  We know that we are not alone in this financial hardship, and many of you are facing or have faced similar or greater stress.  Our hearts and prayers are with you all tonight, as we pray our own future, and trust God more deeply.  We are thankful that He is intimately involved in the details of our lives, and our future is secure in Him.

Thank you, Brad, for being such a tremendous provider for our family.  You are such a diligent, respectable, and compassionate husband and father.  I’m by your side.  Always.

2 Corinthians 4:16-18  “Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day.  For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.”

Monday, September 14, 2009

Crazy Love

I don’t do book clubs.  I’ve never participated in one.  I’m not a literature buff.  I don’t wear smarticles (spectacles + smart) when I read.  I don’t journal.

HOWEVER… 

I do enjoy a good read.  I particularly enjoy a book that makes an impact.  One that I don’t tuck away on the bookshelf when I’m finished, but one that stays within reach, or that I lend to someone else, because I’m so touched by the words, that I can’t let them be forgotten.

When I saw that my favorite blogger Angie from Bring the Rain and her friend Jessica were starting an online book club, I quickly skimmed the post and counted myself out for a variety of reasons:

1. I hadn’t heard of the book.

2. We are on a tight budget right now, and I didn’t want to spend the money on a personal item.

3. I’m in the middle of 3 reads at the moment, and I didn’t want to start yet another one, without finishing the others.

4. I didn’t think a book club was my cup of tea. 

5. I don’t normally read books with “Crazy” in the title, because I already have all the crazy I can handle.

HOWEVER… 

crazy-love-bookI stumbled upon the book during a date the other night at Barnes and Noble.  The red cover jumped out at me from a distance, so I decided to add it to my pile, and took a seat beside my handsome date. Needless to say, the rest of my stack of magazines and books went untouched as I was sucked into the compelling words of the Introduction and Chapter 1.

While I await my own copy to arrive (I ordered it from www.half.com for $8.50), I read up to Chapter 2 on Google Books (completely free).   I really would encourage you to join Angie, Jessica, myself, and hundreds of others as we tackle Crazy Love: Overwhelmed by a Relentless God together. They’ve set up a blog and a community for this specific purpose. You can find out where to purchase the book here or order your own copy here.

Everyone is invited, no matter where you are on your journey with Christ.  I think it will grow us, challenge us, and strengthen our faith…and how fun would it be to do this TOGETHER?????

From what I’ve read so far (and so far I’ve LOVED it), this isn’t your typical pat you on the back sort of Christian book.  Rather, it’s about the Creator of the Universe’s affection towards us, and how we should pursue our relationship with Him.

I don’t usually use YouTube this often on my blog.

HOWEVER…

This video will make you “Stop and Think” (about getting the book and joining in!)

Leave me a comment to let me know you’re “IN” and I’ll see you over at Bloom!

PS A shout out to my sister, who is also a Brady Bunch Enthusiast, who is also reading…which I think is our first time to read a book together.  Love you, sis!

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Covenant Relationship

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Although I had the greatest intentions to sit down and hash out a much overdue Keepin’ It Real Rewinds post, I’d like to share something that’s been on my heart the past couple of days.  Now let me warn you things that come out of my heart and onto the computer screen are not always communicated in the clearest fashion, so just hear me out for a few paragraphs as I dive into a very sensitive topic.

Lately I can hardly turn the corner without be asked to discuss the marriage of a well known reality mother.  While I have no intentions of blogging about their personal decisions, speculating their failures, or discussing the unknown details surrounding the destruction of a fellow family of multiples (whom I’ve never met), it has led to very thought provoking conversations on marriage and children.  And it has caused my heart to be heavy, not only for this particular family, but for those who are facing or who have faced the ugly scars of divorce.

No one walks down the aisle, adorned like a princess thinking, “I really hope this ends in divorce”. 

No one fathoms as they hold their swaddled newborn baby for the first time, “I wonder if I’ll have partial custody?” 

Of course not, but somewhere after the size 0-3 onesies have been boxed up (or perhaps before), marriage enters its own test of “reality”.  A reality that includes strains on communication, intimacy, attention, and time. 

Brad and I dated for 6 years (high school sweethearts) {insert awwwwws} before we wed.  We were the best of friends, we had spent an enormous amount of time together as a couple, we had completed counseling with our pastor, as well as prepared for marriage through an engaged couples class.  However, nothing could have completely prepared us for the stress of quadruplets on a marriage. Nor could the newlywed bliss compare with the deep respect that I have gained for my husband through the challenges of parenting. Marriage has been a journey. And it’s a journey I plan to continue for life. 

For Brad and I, divorce is not an option.  It’s not in our vocabulary.  We don’t even joke about it. We are in a covenant relationship.

However, do I think we are above the sins and mistakes that lead to divorce?  Absolutely not.  This is where I think many of us “Christians” have been fooled.  Our pride has deceived us from thinking it could happen to us. We’ve trusted ourselves as not weak enough to require accountability.  We’ve danced around the idea that marriage is loving your husband even when he leaves his socks on the floor, or when he squeezes the tube of toothpaste the wrong way. How many marriages have ended over socks or toothpaste, anyway?  I’m going out on a limb and saying very few.  Rather I think there are deeper issues that drive us to destroy a relationship (and the many others who lives are affected by our decisions).

Pride. Anger. Jealousy. Deceit. Discontentment. Selfishnessto name a handful.

And how quickly they can consume a marriage!

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I am sure that I have just a small grasp of the true picture of a marriage covenant in the six short years we’ve been married. What I have experienced is that marriage is much more than saying  “I Do” in a stunning white gown. Instead, marriage is a series of “I Do(s)” 

I DO forgive you for hurting me.

I DO choose to overlook your flaws and concentrate on your goodness.

I DO respect you as my husband.

I DO take responsibility for my actions.

I DO choose to love you above my children. (And to quit feeling guilty for doing so…)

I DO commit to you today, as I promised on our wedding day.

I pray this has somehow encouraged you today.  Let me leave you with a few resources that can communicate Biblical marriage much better than I could ever articulate.  First start off with a Study Bible. (I recommend this one.) These are great scripture references on this topic: Ephesians 5:22-32, and I Peter 3:1-7.  A few books that would be encouraging resources would include: The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace, Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney, Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges, and Disciplines of a Godly Woman by Barbara Hughes.

I would love to keep this conversation going in the comment section of this post.  Let’s encourage one another! 

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Multiple Pregnancy: Expecting the Unexpected

"Behind every baby is an unbelievable story."  Discovery Health is revealing the stories behind some unbelievable pregnancies and births during Baby Week, premiering Sunday-Friday, June 14-19 at 8P e/p on Discovery Health. Programs included in the week's lineup: Twins By Surprise; Little Parents, Big Pregnancy; Births Beyond Belief; Obese & Pregnant, and others that are sure to peak your interest. You'll find a video preview of the episodes here.

Our own story of four brothers born on the same day, is nothing short of astounding, so Discovery Health along with BlogHer decided to highlight our blog on the Baby Week website. Many of you faithful "Quad Addicts" have been following our story for some time, and many of you are hooked on my Keepin' It Real Rewind Series, in which I'm slowly documenting our infertility and pregnancy journey. However, there's an "inside" story that I've yet to share with you, that I've decided to disclose for this post. 

After our battle with infertility, we knew our chances for twins were elevated due to hormone treatments for my Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and a family history of twins, but we had no way to prepare for the shock of quadruplets.  In fact, we could hardly wrap our minds around the idea of "triplets" when we learned in the 8th week of pregnancy, that our 3 were in fact FOUR!  Each doctor's appointment seemed to up the ante, so much that I feared each appointment would be reveal yet another heartbeat and yet another multiple pregnancy term ending in "-let" (quintuplet, sextuplet, etc).  

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I was terrified, purely terrified by the thought of quintuplets!  You might think after four, what's one or two more, but in my mind it was drastically different. I had 2 arms; Brad had 2 arms.  That was one arm for each baby.  We could somehow "handle" that.  Four car seats would fit in our minivan, four cribs could cram into one nursery, four boy colors (blue, green, yellow, and red) could be used to color code their feeding charts; but throwing another baby in the mix would breakdown my entire game plan.

Each doctor's appointment that passed without any more surprises, calmed my heart into believing that there truly were only four.  It wasn't until I was hospitalized at 28 weeks into the pregnancy, that the numbers fear became once again unnerving. Similar to the deliveries featured on Twins by Surprise, our hospital had a surprise multiple birth of its own, several years prior to our delivery. However, many of the nurses who were present at that particular delivery, in which an expected quintuplet birth became a sextuplet birth, were assigned to my care.  Repeatedly I heard about this mother's caesarian delivery, and the shock of the doctors finding another sac, just as they were starting to sew up her incision. Usually the story would end with a, "Can you imagine?" "What if you really have 5 instead of 4?" "Wouldn't that be something?"

My daily ultrasounds were less than reassuring, as body parts were crammed and tangled inside my stretched to the max belly. It was nearly impossible for our ultrasound tech to distinguish who was who, and even though I trusted her with my life, I couldn't help but question if somehow one could be hiding somewhere.

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After 32 LONG weeks my body was rejecting the pregnancy.  High protein levels, hyper-reflex problems, and severe swelling signaled a dangerous condition known as preeclampsia had taken over. The highly anticipated birth day had finally arrived! As they prepped me for surgery, I felt a peace and calmness that I know HAD to be from God. Although I knew there was MUCH uncertainty in the hours and days ahead, I was eager to leave the extreme high risk pregnancy days behind, and meet these little ones who's lives I had been fighting for so long.

Immediately following the intense pulling, ripping, and yanking of my body, I heard the words, "The first one is out!" With each little life taken out of me, I could breath easier than I had for months.  Minutes later, (which flew like seconds) four tiny, yet perfect little bodies entered the world.   It was over...or was it?  I had just taken a huge breath of relief when my doctor in his dry wit yells, "Here's another one!" "Here's another one!" My heart stopped right there on the operating table. I'm sure alarms must have sounded to alert the anasethiologist that he had indeed lost me, but it couldn't be heard over the roar of laughter that filled the room. I was officially the mother of quadruplets!

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The final "quint scare" took place in the resuscitation room, where the boys were cared for immediately following delivery. In the emotion and excitement of the moment, Brad lost count  and thought there were five babies.  Here's the video proof:

I am sure God would have shown Himself faithful if He would have given us another blessing in the bunch, but we were overwhelmingly satisfied with just four. Our hands are full with multiple miracles!

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

1/118 Chance

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I just wanted to remind you folks that you've got just a few more days to enter the Snapfish $50 gift card giveaway over at www.makesquadshappy.blogspot.com! Just leave me a comment over there telling me about your favorite photographed memory of your father.   Right now, you have a 1/118 chance of winning, which is a pretty good shot! 

However, the "odds" are not currently in our favor at the Murray Casa.  2/4 boys are sick with a nasty tummy bug.  I'll spare you the details, but let's just say the Easter buckets are NEVER going to be used for collecting Easter eggs again! Would you join us in praying that this illness would be short and that the other 2 and their parents would be spared from this one?  We have an EXCITING end of the week planned (that I can't wait to share), and we'd LOVE to be healthy enough to take it all in! It sounds like a selfish prayer to pray, but I've been learning a lot about prayer and praying for one another.  I used to feel guilty to ask for prayer for myself, but it is a great way we can love one another.  God longs to communicate with us, and know our hearts desires.  So I'm not going to be ashamed to ask you to pray for us, as you so faithfully have through our journey!

Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Hebrews 4:16 "Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need."

PS I would consider it a privilege to pray for you as well, so leave a comment below if there's a request you would like to share or email me at (quatro_mama at yahoo dot com).

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